ABOUT ME, SHERI! Her motto: "Life is short, so go for the gusto”! Sheri Rowland is a Transformation Coach for Women. Sheri has spent 35+ years of her life dedicated to helping others manage life transitions from addictions, to unhealthy relationships to then ...
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Sometimes the most difficult thing to do is to just let go!
We have all had these times. Times when… you know that moment when you just want to slap the shit out of someone in hopes that they’ll wake up and see what they are doing!!!
Or worse, when its your own bad choice and you turn on yourself~
You know what I am talking about!
We have all been there before. You are just in awe..in shock! What the hell were they thinking? Oh, right… they aren’t!
Are they really that stupid? Can’t they see that they are fixing to have a train wreck?
The scene has you and you can’t think of anything else. The whole scenario consumes you.
You change what you are doing or tell yourself happy thoughts, but it all creeps right back in.
You catch yourself going over every word …again, again and again!
Or you re-read the text messages or the message you received on FB over and over trying to find answers. Trying to make sense of it all.
You go to work and get busy doing your daily tasks but your mind is only half there. You are NOT present and don’t get much work done.
You try going out with friends to get your mind off of things but end up telling the story to them over and over and they either get you more fired up about it or they are getting tired of hearing about it too.
You go to bed at night still thinking about it… tossing and turning til you finally fall asleep due to exhaustion or you pray about it and give it to God, to only wake up with it first thing on your mind in the morning. Here we go again! The cycle repeats itself again and again!
You just can’t get off this merry go round! It feels like quicksand sucking you down into yourself and you can’t get out!
Our hurts have a way of keeping us stuck in our tracks, unable to move forward or experience any joy.
You just can’t seem to “let it go”! (hearing my grand daughter singing “Let it Goooo, Let it Goooo” from the movie “Frozen”)
We know that it is making us sick, sending your blood pressure through the roof, ears ringing and your head is pounding! You know it is not healthy for you but still can’t get it out of your head.
As women, it is really difficult to sometimes to let things go and let them be!
Especially if we feel we or someone we love has been wronged.
We try hard to make sense of everything in our heads, a million times and nothing makes sense.
You have a strong urge to right wrongs that can never be erased. Revisiting past hurts by clinging to a love you lost, to stew and brood and want revenge even when you are not a revengeful person.
We think it will make us feel better but in reality we know that it won’t. It just makes matters worse.
We talk it to death, over and over till even we become sick of it. But we are still not able to just let it go!
These can be past hurts or current injustices! Either way… WE ARE STUCK!
This is a lonely place to be sometimes and as a woman it can be scary. You feel so alone and think no one understands what you are going through or truly how you feel, so you walk this path alone.
You don’t have to anymore!
A friend of mine shared with me yesterday, “You can not reason with insanity.” (and that is so true)
We really never ever get over the past or present situation but we do get past it.
So, what’s it going to take to let go?
A total reboot of your system?
YES!
To let go of the past that preoccupies us, we have to let go of our natural hope for equity or to expose to the world the wrongdoer…. your cheating ex lover, your stealing neighbor, your gossipy friend, your lying boss, for who and what they are.
You may feel that they win when you let it go, but in reality… you do!
You must take the high road.
To let go, something has to change. Open up your mind and your heart to move on.
To realize in your heart of hearts that this is their path …their journey … NOT yours.
We look at what we need to learn from this situation, this relationship and own it and move on. And sometimes, it has nothing for us to learn.
Check!
Done!
Move on!
We have to challenge irrational and unproductive thinking until you get your head on straight.
It means that we have to face our fears and find the courage to face them head on.
Its about asking yourself “Am I being to too hard on myself and not having an open mind?”
And if so… then asking yourself how can I shift this? How can you look at it a little differently?
Try spending some time in meditation/prayer on how you see your future in a positive light. Write those down.
Then ask yourself ..
“Is there anywhere in this situation or other situations that you need to make amends to yourself or anyone else?”
This will repair you and your relationships to others.
Remember, you are writing this down for you and your eyes only.
Forgive yourself mostly and then others. (And I know that last one is easier said than done!) But it is a must in order to move on!
And now, learn how to be in the present moment. This can be difficult since we have been so focused on the past. Its lliterly telling yourself.. I am sitting in my chair, I am looking at my computer screen, I am getting out of bed…. and this takes time and practice and in my new coaching program, I have a lot of tools to teach you just how to do this!
You as a woman, need and deserve a safe space to be able to learn how to let go while being supported by other women and myself, that understand and that is what I am providing! I could not be more excited!
If this sounds good to you or something you have been searching for, then I want to talk to you today!
This is an answers to your prayers!
Fill out the contact page to get you on my calendar and then lets talk!!!
Sheri
“Forgiveness means giving up all hope for a better past.” ~Lily Tomlin
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