ABOUT ME, SHERI! Her motto: "Life is short, so go for the gusto”! Sheri Rowland is a Transformation Coach for Women. Sheri has spent 35+ years of her life dedicated to helping others manage life transitions from addictions, to unhealthy relationships to then ...
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Ok Woman, Put your feet up & lets talk!
I never thought I’d be here, but here I am. And let me tell you — dating at midlife just ain’t what it’s cracked up to be.
In fact, I find it very stressful!
My friends ask me: “Why don’t you just go out more?” “Have you checked out online dating sites”? They all know someone that met the love of their life on a dating site and lived happily ever after.
I can be a tad stubborn.
Strangely, I can be a social person but also enjoy my time alone. Why was I cutting myself off from the world? My thinking was that if I don’t put myself out into the world then nothing bad can happen to me. Just play it safe Sheri! As in not get my heart broken …again, and certainly no more disappointments. Yes, if you don’t do anything Sheri, nothing bad happens. However, nothing GOOD happens, either. Actually nothing happens.
I don’t drink, so meeting men at bars was out of the question. And really, what woman in her 50’s likes meeting a strange man at a bar anyway? Those days are over for me.
Yes, I did take a leap of faith and joined the online dating! This is where the stress begins. Creating your profile! You need to have some sass and wit about you and an attractive profile picture. But then not too much sass or wit. You don’t want to be seen as ‘too much”. And the body shape question! Excuse me? Ok… curvy! (thats not over weight, right?)
So, I gathered some of my girlfriends to talk and get their opinion on my profile … I am good to go.
I don’t know about you but have you ever looked at the choices that we have at our age? GEEZ! There may be several success stories of online dating but there are most likely hundreds of failures. The scammers, the fraudulent profiles, pics of their dogs, cars, prize possessions, or of themselves 30 years ago! You just never know what the truth is. Oh and lets not forget their photos taken in the bathroom mirror where you can see their cluttered, dirty bathrooms and usually in a wife beater T-shirt! …thinking they are all sexy! DISGUSTING!
There are men from every state and other countries. I am just not into long distance relationships. There are men that describe their sexual preferences or unable to write more than 2 lines grammatically correct. (Yes, I know sex is important in middle age…but sometimes TMI)
In addition to online dating, I’ve tried meeting men that my friends have set me up with — in person. But it’s just different. I am not a kid anymore and really don’t do the “hang out, hook up” thing well.
I now have some prerequisite questions I ask and a list of qualities that I would like in a man! Having this list saves me a lot of time and frustration when I do date a man. I always encourage my clients to do the same so that they feel confident in who they are BEFORE dating. If you find yourself in the dating scene, you should too. I share these in my upcoming women’s coaching group.
If you find yourself fearing dating again at this time of your life. You are not alone!
I know how difficult it can be to put yourself out into the dating world with no support. Its more difficult than it needs to be.
I see so many women living alone in fear of putting them self out into the world, and never reach out for the support that we all need and living life alone. We are not intended to live alone the rest of our life!
I am in the process of starting a new relationship. One of creating exactly what both of us want. An open relationship. Scary? YES! But if I want to continue to stretch myself and grow, I have to create a playground to play in. More of that to come!!!
As women, we need and deserve a safe space to be and that is what I am providing in my upcoming coaching program!
I promise you, life can change in the blink of an eye with the right coaching and the right support.
Lets talk and get you feeling confident, assured and glowing again!
If this sounds good to you or something you have been searching for, then you should be excited too! Answers to your prayers!
Limited spots available. (This will be a very small group of like minded women so it will be up close and personal)
Private message me if you want the scoop and lets talk!
Sheri
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